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Lifelong Learning - Spending Time Just Visiting
By: Dr. Lu Sweet
My daughter, Payton and I were talking about dreams one day. I told her I have always been fascinated with ghost towns and I thought it would be cool to "own" one. She looked at me, raised her eyebrows and emphatically declared, "If you do, I will not be visiting you."
Seriously though, I have always enjoyed talking with my grandparents, and now my parents, about how things were when they were growing up. When they talked with me, they would light up with each memory shared. And now that my children are getting older, I love sharing things about how I grew up, with them. I get particularly nostalgic around the holidays when spending time with my family.
Growing up, we played a ton of board games and cards within my immediate and extended family. One of the best things to come out of cards games and board games for me was the time we would spend visiting in between taking turns or while someone was shuffling and dealing. That's probably one of the things I miss most about my grandparents now that they are gone… just visiting with them.
A few months ago I taught my eleven year-old, Chloe, how to play cribbage. She picked it up very quickly. We now play one game almost every night. And we play it on my grandma's old cribbage board. It was one of the things I asked my mom for when Gramma passed away. It has no monetary value, but after I played hundreds, maybe thousands of games with her and grandpa on that board, the memories attached to it are worth everything to me.
So the other night right in the middle of our cribbage game, Chloe said to me, "Mom, I don't want to think about when you die, so I'll just say this really quick. When you do die, I want this cribbage board, ok?" I took a deep breath, wiped a tear and said, "Of course." Chloe asking me that question means that our time together playing cribbage and visiting means something special to her. Me too. We finished our game and we visited throughout.
I love spending time with my children and other family members for just this reason…priceless times spent together. But, if you blink, these times will be gone. Kids grow up and move away and special people pass on. I never fully understood why my parents and grandparents enjoyed just sitting around and visiting so much. I understand now.
Happy Holidays to you and yours. I hope that you will take the time to make some wonderful holiday memories of your own and that you will take some time to just sit and visit with those that you care most about. Yours in Education.
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